Hua Mingwei, 34, is a college lecturer in Chongqing, China, earning about 6,000 yuan a month (roughly 20 million VND). He shared with a TV station that he’s been going on blind dates for ten years through matchmaking centers and dating services, spending tens of thousands of yuan but with little success.
Talking about himself, Hua revealed he’s 1.68 meters tall, doesn’t own a house or car, lives in the school dorm, and goes home to his mother’s place a few dozen kilometers from the city center on weekends. His mother is a single woman, so he deeply longs for a family of his own. “I hope one day to hold my lover’s hand and walk along the beach at sunset,” he said.
Hua shared his frustration with the dating scene, saying many women have very high standards, demanding a boyfriend be between 1.75 and 1.8 meters tall with a high income right from the start.
He recalled, “Once on a date, instead of going out to eat or watch a movie or take a walk, the girl asked to see my house first. She asked about my after-tax salary three times. She even bluntly said ‘we’re not compatible’ after I told her my income.”
On another occasion, when preparing to meet an old colleague, after he revealed his salary, the woman immediately backed out. She even coldly messaged him saying to talk again only when he earns tens of thousands of yuan a month.
Hua admits he’s not perfect and has flaws, so he just hopes for a gentle, understanding woman who doesn’t put salary first. He also revealed that although he visits the “Dating Corner” at Chongqing park every week, the women who come there are more curious about “how much I earn” than having a serious conversation.
After 10 years of searching for his “other half,” Hua has kept improving himself. He now holds 20 certificates and degrees from his studies and skill-building. However, his salary hasn’t changed much. He knows it’s tough to live in an expensive city and support a family on his income.
His story, after airing on TV, sparked heated debate online. Some said he has low emotional intelligence, others told him to be realistic about his finances, questioning how he could support a family if he can’t even afford basic living costs. Many said no one wants to suffer for a “golden heart.”
After reading the comments, Hua admitted he felt a bit hurt but chose not to argue. He explained, “Because we live in different environments with different understandings, knowledge will definitely vary. I don’t need to explain myself to those who don’t understand me.”
Though he still longs for true love, Hua no longer feels confident going on dates, fearing more rejection.
Source: Sina
